Questioner: Who amongst the wives of the Prophet (sollaLloohu ‘alayhi wa sallam) is the highest in status?

Dr Sharof: They are all high in status, but there is a difference of opinion amongst the scholars as to whether the highest in status is Khadeejah or ‘Aa’ishah. They (the scholars) are agreed that Khadeejah was the highest in status when she was alive. But after Khadeejah died, there is a difference of opinion as to whether the status of ‘Aa’ishah outweighs that of Khadeejah or not. However, they (the scholars) are agreed that both of them are the highest in rank (amongst the wives of the Prophet). Na’am.


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Questioner: Is it permissible for a woman to woo a man just as Khadeejah did regarding the Prophet (sollaLloohu ‘alayhi wa sallam)?

Dr Sharof: Yes, it is permissible. There is no difficulty regarding this. Although, it is not easy for a woman to woo a man, this is because the man may cherish her, but he may dislike her because she wooed him. This is the case with some men. 

Besides, it is possible for the man to say he is not interested. The shame in this kind of response may make her consider leaving that vicinity. For this reason, if there is a woman who is interested in marrying a man, she should strategically make him know. If the man is not interested she should be calm. There is no problem about it.

However, if a woman wishes to marry you, do not be in haste to reject her offer even if you are not interested. You may aid her by helping her look for someone she may be interested in. You can state clearly to her that you are contented with the number of wives you have, or you are not interested in marrying a wife for now (as the case may be). So, you are to make her understand your reason, but do not hesitate to help her look for someone else who is of good moral qualities. She will be happy if you aid her regarding this. That is it. 

A covetous person will quickly marry four wives, and he may quickly divorce some of his wives so that some other ones will come in. This is covetousness. For this reason, we should be contented with whatever we have. Don’t be unnecessarily bothered about women so that you can have enough time to take care of your household. Allaah detests the trait of intentionally marrying (women) for the purpose of enjoying them sexually (and thereafter divorcing them). This is because Allaah cursed the men who do such thing and women who do such thing. If you marry one wife and you do not have the capability of marrying more wives, stay calm and do not bring unnecessary troubles to yourself. Na’am.


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Questioner: Two villages are at war and there are Muslims in both villages, a Muslim from the fighters of one village points gun at a Muslim from the other village so as to kill him, if he (the one who is to be killed) protects himself in such way that there is no other escape route other than to kill the person who pointed gun at him, is he a sinner?

Dr Sharof: A person wants to kill you, and there is no other way of saving yourself other than to kill him; you have not sinned (against Allaah) neither have you sinned against him (if you kill him). However, if your question is, if such fitnah happens, a village is at war with another one just like the Jaahiliyyah war they engage in (in our vicinities), (for example), Offa fighting Erin Ile, and some Muslims are calling others to Jihaad, (what should you do)? If this happens and you are in one of the areas of the two villages, run away from the place immediately, that is how to achieve peacefulness.

But, if there is no method of running away, or you are afraid that you may be killed, stay at your place of residence and continue to pray that the fitnah does not reach you. That is it.


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Questioner: What is the ruling on watching Yoruba films, English films and other similar ones?

Dr Sharof: Our times should not be idle for watching films. Most of those films, especially the Yoruba films, usually result to venerating Christianity. Also, our scholars say it may not be wrong to watch films if all what they show is true. And there is no film except that it is established upon falsehood. Yes or No! The people presented as husbands and wives are not couples in reality. Therefore, it is a lie. There is no harm if they can remove lies from them. Na’am.


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Questioner: What premium should be given to the first wife before marrying a second wife?

Dr Sharof: Islaam does not ask you to give her anything. Don’t make things difficult for yourself. Sometimes we put ourselves into unnecessary troubles by promising to buy houses and cars for the first wife. For what reason? Marry a new wife. However, according to the Sharee’ah, it is not obligatory to give the new wife all the gratuities you gave the first wife. This is because they were not married at the same time. Whatever gratuity given to the second wife is to be given to the first wife (so as to be just). So who gains more? It’s the first wife if we really understand Islaam.

[SOURCE: “Question and Answer session of the tape titled, ‘IDILE MUSULUMI’]

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Questioner: If the name of the Prophet (sollaLloohu ‘alayhi wa sallam) is mentioned while we are on Prayer, what should we say?

Dr Sharof: Say, ‘sollaLloohu ‘alayhi wa sallam’ (may the peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) without raising your voice. It is not appropriate to say it with a loud voice as we see most people doing today. Everyone should say it in such a way that the person next to him does not hear it. Al-Imaam Ibn Qoyyim (rohimohuLlaah) has explained this in his book, ‘Jala al-afham fi fadhl solaati ala Nabiyy (sollaLloohu ‘alayhi wa sallam)’. At the end of that book he mentioned the positions wherein we would send blessings to the Prophet. He declared that if the name of the Prophet is mentioned during prayer even if it is at a position wherein we do not normally send blessings to the Prophet, we would say sollaLloohu ‘alayhi wa sallam. It does not render the prayer invalid. This is because the Sharee’ah states that if a statement from the statements of the prayer is said at the position other than its position, it does not render the prayer invalid. I hope you understand. For example, if you are on prayer reciting the verse, ‘Guide us to the Straight path’ [Soorah al-Faatihah (1):6], and the news of a person’s death reaches you, you can recite the verse, ‘…say: “Truly! To Allaah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return.” [Soorah al-Baqorah (2):156] and thereafter continue with your previous recitation. That is, you should continue with the next verse [Soorah al-Faattihah (1):7]. This does not render your prayer invalid. This is because if you mention one of the statements of the prayer in a place other than its place, it does not render your payer invalid. I hope you understand. This is what we understand from the Sharee’ah.


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Questioner: Can we eat Turkeys and Domestic fowls?

Dr Sharof: No one can forbid you from eating Turkey (and Domestic fowls) if they are well-kept and slaughtered appropriately. If you are not the one who slaughtered it but you are sure that it was slaughtered in the name of Allaah for Allaah by a Muslim, it is permissible to eat it. Note the condition; it must be slaughtered in the name of Allaah for Allaah. It should not be slaughtered in the name of Allaah for a person. That is why we have to be watchful of the people who slaughter our animals. They (the lawful animals) must be slaughtered in the name of Allaah for Allaah. An animal can be slaughtered in the name of Allaah for an idol. Will you eat this kind of animal? No, you mustn’t eat it. An animal can be slaughtered in the name of Allaah for a Shaykh. Will you eat this kind of animal? No, you can’t. It must be slaughtered in the name of Allaah for Allaah. Allaah says, ‘Say, verily, my prayer, my rites of sacrifice, my living and my dying are for Allaah, Lord of the Worlds [Soorah al-‘An’aam (6):162]. 

But if your question is regarding the Turkeys and Domestic Fowls imported from foreign countries, our advice is that you do not eat them except if you are certain about those who slaughtered it. This is because the whites show no concern about the rights of the Muslims regarding this, especially in this Nigeria where the government does not make the importers know these conditions.

The Arabian Lands had conquered problems like this for long. Saudi Arabia conquered this to the extent that they have representative in factories other than their country that supervise and give conditions of the meats that can be shipped into their country. This is from the consumers right which the Muslims desire. We should seek this so that we would be sure of the conditions of whatever is imported in, otherwise we mustn’t eat it. This is because these non-Muslims kill animals in ways that are contrary to the teachings of Islaam, and their aim is to make the Muslims violate the laws of Islaam. That is why they have made many Muslim consume pigs unknowingly. They may kill animals by electrocuting them, and that is why many of their meats appear excessively reddish because they died with blood in them.

Also, many of their cows are killed by striking them with huge sticks. There is a documentary which shows how domestic fowls were killed by cutting their necks with bare mouth. You can imagine! Yet they send this to the people for eating. May Allaah save us from eating unlawful meat! That is it.

Besides, people (Muslims) who have poultry should buy turkey and breed them. You can kill them and package them for the Muslims. We would be at ease buying from you and you can distinguish your animals by writing halaal (permissible) on their packs after packaging. This will make people distinguish them from impermissible ones. I hope I have answered this question.

[Source: Question and Answer session of the clip titled, “Explanation of Ma’aarijul Qabuul at Ibadan]

Translated by Aboo Aaishah Al Odeomeey